Episode 11: Is Focusing On Yourself Actually Selfish?

Somewhere along the way, most of us absorbed the idea that paying attention to yourself is the selfish option.

That the good people (the generous ones, the caring ones) are the ones perpetually oriented outward. It's a tidy story. It's also, as we argue in this episode, completely backwards.

We explore the difference between ego-driven self-focus and the kind of self-connection that actually makes genuine generosity possible, and why so much of what gets called service is really self-abandonment wearing a very convincing disguise. Because here's the thing about giving from a place you haven't fully inhabited: it tends to produce resentment, depletion, and a low-grade sense that something is... off.

This conversation is about coming home to yourself, not as an act of withdrawal, but as the ground from which real love, contribution, and integrity can grow. If you've ever felt guilty for turning inward or exhausted from giving without being nourished, this one's going to reframe some things.